Maybe you started rumors after the breakup that’s why she has become furious at you. Maybe you did something really bad that led her to break up with you in the first place. Whatever the case may be, it is really hard to figure out how to get your girlfriend back especially if she hates you.
What you need to realize is this: hate is a very strong feeling, and you cannot have strong feelings for someone if you do not matter to them. Therefore, your ex girlfriend definitely thinks you’re important enough to be hated on. You still hold a very important position in her life and you shouldn’t take that for granted. Your problem right now is how to convert such hatred into love, and this article will help you discover some of the ways to make your ex warm up to you after hating you for a long time.
Remember that at the core, your ex still loves you.
The “hate” isn’t like the normal hate that you imagine it to be; it’s just something that spurted out of her immense love for you, despite of you doing something bad to her. This means that even though she may say that she hurts you, she, in fact, loves you so much. What she hates are the stupid things that you have done.
Don’t contact her for a while, and then acquiesce to “less contact” after a few days.
The No-Contact rule strongly applies in this situation; you don’t want to aggravate the problem by smothering her too much with your presence. After a week or two, you can then start sending her text messages asking her how she’s been. If she doesn’t reply, don’t panic – that only means she’s not ready to talk to you yet. Don’t put too much pressure in your initial conversations, just ask her how things have been doing and what’s she’s been up to recently.
Get her to talk to you alone and in private, and then apologize.
Now, if you think that it’s safe to do so, you may ask her if she’s able to talk to you in person and in private. This is important because this is where you’ll, once and for all, apologize for everything that you have done which may have hurt her. Your apology must be short, must be well-prepared, and must be focused on the future of the relationship, not on you, nor on her. Don’t expect her to forgive you that easily, although there is a big chance for that since she’s already agreed to see you in person.
Demonstrate to her how much you’re sorry for whatever it is that you have done.
To apologize is one thing, to demonstrate the sincerity of your apology is another. You should now do everything in your power to show her that whatever it is you did in the past won’t ever happen again. This is the only real way to show remorse for your past actions. You don’t need to go to great lengths just to show her that you’ve truly changed; it will definitely show as long as you’re being honest about it, and your ex will definitely feel it.
Don’t pressure your ex.
Finally, I should stress out that it will probably take a long time for your ex to forgive you, so don’t pressure her. This is the only sure way on how to get your girlfriend back – especially a girlfriend who hates you. Just continue showering her with your love in whatever way possible and just wait for her to take you back again as a boyfriend.